
In the early to mid 1990โs a little girl bounced, pigtails swinging, into her first day of kindergarten. She insisted on going in alone. As her young parents watched her disappear in the door, both their eyes welled up with tears. This bittersweet day that they, both looked forward to and dreaded had finally come โ and it was more bitter than sweet.
You see, this little girl had courageously overcome at least one surgery every year to correct birth defects. The doctors said she would be both blind and brain-damaged to her devastated, but faithful parents at birth. Each year, she would desperately reach back for her parents as staff took her from โThe Bunny Roomโ (where children could choose a toy before surgery) off to the operating room. God honored their faith and through the expert staff at Le Bonheur Childrenโs Hospital in Memphis TN., she was neither blind nor brain damaged – God worked a miracle in her life.
Her mind was sharp, and God blessed her with sight in one eye and a prosthesis that fit perfectly over the other eye that both looked and moved perfectly.
However, as beautiful as she was, there were still some minor, subtle features that made her feel uncomfortableโฆand we all know how cruel children can be in school.
This little girl walked in with the excitement and hope of all children to have the friends and normal school experience that all children deserveโฆand yes she did make good friends. But, there are always those children and some adults who love to amuse themselves and affirm themselves at the expense of others.
This sweet little girl was BULLIED.
This sweet little girl would have her expectations of a happy school year ripped from under her EACH year by a few other children who felt she didnโt deserve to be happy at school.
They werenโt there at the โBunny Roomโ before surgeryโฆ
They werenโt there for the pain as the scars healedโฆ
They werenโt there as she looked in the mirror desperately wanting to just feel normalโฆ
They werenโt there when she begged morning after morning to stay home from schoolโฆ
They werenโt there when she looked her parents though tears asking โwhy donโt they like me?โ
This constant emotional, physical and psychological abuse slowly chipped away at her self-esteem as her parents did everything they could to help their sweet child. There are few things worse than sending your child to a hostile environmentโฆwith little to no power to change it.
Sometimes as she put her head in her hands to escape to herself for a few moments, children would still poke her in the back of the head. WHAT IF, in a temporary moment of rage she raised her head and blindly lashed out with a pencil striking one of the bullies in the temple with a pencilโฆwho would be made to look the villain in this situation.
She wasnโt the villain, and didnโt ask to be the victim.
As much as violence has no place in our schools, we must ask ourselves WHY when some students lash out.
When I watch some tragic news stories, I sometimes wonder what led to that point. It isn’t always violent video games and music that lead to such behavior…they sometimes provide the fuel for emotions that have been created through bullying.
Yes, some people come out on top after years of bullying, but everyone isnโt blessed with the same coping mechanismsโฆsome just canโt handle it.
This young lady made it through school allowing herself to continue being hurt, without hurting someone elseโฆbut if she had, the last thing she deserved was to be portrayed as a villain and possibly imprisoned because she couldnโt take it any more.
I am in no way defending those children who violently attack their fellow students and teachers, but we must be honest enough with ourselves to realize that SOMETIMESโฆthere is more to the story.
Unfortunately, bullying doesnโt stop in school. Adults do the same thing once they begin working. There are bullies in our offices, stores, factoriesโฆanywhere people can work. One of my greatest disappointments in โgrowing upโ in realizing how many of us donโt.
When someone is born with challenges that most of us donโt have to endure, let us not allow bullies to ruin their lives. Too many time our culture not only allows, but sometimes supports this behavior. Let us be sensitive to them, Let us embrace them, nurture themโฆthey deserve to enjoy life as everyone else.
This young lady turned out to be a beautiful person both inside and out – to God be the Glory!
Just as the man born blind in John Chapter 9, many times God has special purpose to get glory out of their lives. Their lives are meant for PURPOSE and not PAIN.
John 9:1-3 (NKJV)
Now as Jesus passed by, He saw a man who was blind from birth. 2 And His disciples asked Him, saying, โRabbi, who sinned, this man or his parents, that he was born blind?โ3 Jesus answered, โNeither this man nor his parents sinned, but that the works of God should be revealed in him.
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